Don't let your hard feelings toward your ex end up harming your children. After my divorce, I had some pretty tough feelings toward my ex. He had cheated on me many times and for me, it was the worst pain in the world. We argued about it and he never seemed to really understand how badly what he'd done affected me. I did not know if I would ever recover or feel whole again. We separated and I took the kids and moved. In that first month after we separated, I was so hurt by hi